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getting to know more about what is hindering me
Now you are gaining a clearer insight into who you are, have a go at answering some questions regarding the way you currently choose to see yourself and your life:
• Do I feel like I am the victim of circumstance? Do I ever say 'life's not fair' or something similar? If so, I am going to make a list of the sort of things that I feel are unfair in my life. Instead of seeing my life as difficult, could I see it as challenging? Instead of focusing on all the negative things in my life, could I learn to focus on all the opportunities that arise out of my 'presumed' problems? Could I risk making changes?
• Am I doing anything to make my situation worse? Have a good hard think about everything relevant to the situation in which you find yourself. There's a saying "you make your own luck" - it's also possible that you contribute to your own misfortune. Look at the subtle ways in which you have behaved, given out signals to others, failed to focus on appropriate goals for your own good You may not be immediately conscious of all the nuances that go to make up a particular situation delve deep!
• Am I hiding anything? Am I failing to admit things even to myself? Be specific about this. You are only fooling yourself if you continue to deny the reality of your life. You may be withholding the truth as a protection mechanism for something which has happened in your past. You may be admitting only half the story because you think it's too painful to look at the whole works. But if you look at it within the positive framework of WholeLife Choices, then you are going to learn and grow with your newfound freedom.
• What do I really want? Believe me, this is the well used 'sixty four thousand dollar question'. It's easy to say what you don't want to be, to do or to happen - try writing down a quick list of 10 things that you don't want or don't like. Many of us spend hours talking and thinking about the negatives in life, "I don't want so and so ", "I don't like such and such ", "I don't know how to do ", "I hate the thought of ", "I never want to try that again" etc. Discover the truth - it is easy to be negative! Discover the second truth - it is a real challenge to be positive and realistic about what you want to create for your life. [Also visit Fast Forward 10 in mindercises to help your thinking and your being in this wholelife action area]